My have I missed you...

I have not posted in a good long while because of a few things. I need a new camera, my current one does not work as well as it should. I'm trying to figure out my new body, conduct a job search, and adapt to my new role as Mommy (Whew! I'm tired!)

Today in celebration of acquiring new bras I thought I'd drag out my clothes to see what fits and what will need to go. I had not planned on wearing brown but I was so enamored with this skirt I just could not resist. It might be a little over the top for some, but considering I am truly dressing for pure enjoyment I thought why not mix a boldly printed full skirt with ruffles and add a statement necklace to boot?

Stylistically I can't tell you where I am. I can definitely tell you that I am in transition. I still love structure, I love ladylike details, and color for sure. My style goal is met daily if I get dressed :-) . DD doesn't care what I wear so long as she has a peek-a-boo partner-- it's hard to maintain a rotation of outfits when getting dressed on a daily basis is optional.

Honestly I haven't prioritized getting dressed because I know there are somethings that aren't going to fit. I also know that I'm going to have to learn new proportions and techniques to dress my body. I am not quite ready to admit that some of the changes to my body are permanent and as a result some things are not going to fit in the same way they did before. As a result those things will have to be purged from my closet (I'm sad about that). How is it that we get so attached to outfit combinations or pieces in our closets? Do any of you get a little sentimental when it's time to purge your closet?

Anyway all of these pieces are at least 3 years old. The only thing new here are the accessories and my slightly different hairdo.

This post is also published in the youlookfab forum. You can read and reply to it in either place. All replies will appear in both places.


  • Firecracker (Sharan) replied 7 years ago

    Hello, stranger! Glad to see you back, Day Vies, and it's totally understandable that you are preoccupied with other things. You look fantastic. I love the retro glam look in this gorgeous plaid skirt, ballet flats, and your statement necklace.

    Yes, it's so hard to part with some wardrobe items when they no longer fit. I'm pretty bad at keeping the closet edited, and I tend to hang on to things I love in hopes that I'll one day be able to wear them again. Eventually I find I can let them go more easily after enough time passes.

  • rachylou replied 7 years ago

    Hej hej! You're back! How was the baby break? This outfit is so fab. You could wear it every day :)

    And yes, I have some things that are so beautiful I can't let them go even tho they no longer fit. Is it so wrong? lol

  • Day Vies replied 7 years ago

    No Rachy -- I am hardly one to throw rocks when I am dreading letting some pieces go.
    I am still on the baby break - I'm willing to risk some not so fabulous pictures in exchange for adult conversation.

  • Debbie replied 7 years ago

    You look great. Editing the closet is hard for me too.
    I love our outfit. You look put together and the pieces work well together. Can't wait to see where this leg of your style journey takes you.

  • MTBGirl replied 7 years ago

    You look beautiful! Sentimental is always a part of it. The best items in your closet are the ones that have some special connection, not just a favorite color, fit, feel, texture and such don't you think? That's what brought them to you in the first place. Time to say thank you and you've done your part.  I wish I could do plaid as good as you!

  • Day Vies replied 7 years ago

    Donna I wish I could be as gracious as you when it comes to purging my closet. Never one to let the long, hard road go untraveled, I must go through the torture of seeing the clothes NOT fit me in the mirror before I say "uncle" and let them go.

  • MsMaven replied 7 years ago

    I've missed you as well. Glad to see you find your way back

    I so remember trying on the pre-baby clothes. It's a challenge, all right. 

  • Beth Ann replied 7 years ago

    Welcome back, DV!  Love the rich color and pattern on you, all with your trademark ladylike grace.

    It's still early days with your new body.  I'd wait until you need these cold weather clothes again to make final decisions. 

    I didn't get dressed until 1pm today -- and my kids are 13! 

  • Marley replied 7 years ago

    Day Vies!!!!  It's so good to "see" you!  And, by the way, you look beautiful!  I totally get it that you're in transition with your style and working on figuring things out for your "new" body shape.  But hey, it sounds like you're on the right track by springing for some new bras!  Yeah!  That's always a lift - hahahahaha!

  • ElleH replied 7 years ago

    I love this outfit on you. You look great in a flared midi. Congrats on motherhood.

  • Adelfa replied 7 years ago

    So happy to see you. I agree with Beth Ann that it's too soon to know which body changes are permanent. And yes, I hate getting rid of clothes that I've decided will no longer fit!

    You will always have your style no matter what.

  • Caro in Oz replied 7 years ago

    Glad you are back - You are looking fabber than ever :) Love the hair too.

  • Ginkgo replied 7 years ago

    So good to see you again!  You have such innate style and elegance that you'll always look fab.

  • anne replied 7 years ago

    Wonderful to see you !  And I echo the caution. It's early days yet - your body  is still changing. I wouldn't be purging anything that you like and is in good condition just because it doesn't fit your body right now.

  • deb replied 7 years ago

    Yea, it is so good to see you. You look great!!!

  • rachylou replied 7 years ago

    Haha, Day Vies. You're off to a bad start on providing us with some bad pictures... so *goo goo*... hehe ;)

  • Lucy replied 7 years ago

    You look beautiful, what a gorgeous combo. YLF.

    Re post baby bodies. I was the same weight after a few months, but my shape had changed slightly, and never quite went back. Some of my clothes were fine, others were not. I looked on the bright side - I had justification to buy some new things :) And everyone is different, I wouldn't rush to throw out fav items, but nor would I feel pressured to fit back into them, if that makes sense! 

  • Mona replied 7 years ago

    Welcome back! You look awesome in this skirt. it is not too much at all. Babies change everything. don't they?

  • Suz replied 7 years ago

    So great to see you, Day Vies! I have missed your polished outfits, your incredibly gorgeous smile, and most of all, your intelligence, grace, and joyful attitude. 

    You look terrific in this skirt. The plaid gives a nod to current trends while the shape is beautifully retro. 

    Having a child changes your entire world so I am not surprised it has been a bit of a transition for you in terms of fashion. But you will get your groove back. :)

  • amiable replied 7 years ago

    Yay!  So happy to see you post, and you look radiant!  (And what BethAnn said, except that my youngest is 5)

  • Day Vies replied 7 years ago

    Beth Ann - I am more than happy to agree with you that it's still early. I'm glad that I have not made any major decisions yet. Most of the pieces I've been suspicious of are not staples, just fun pieces I picked up here and there. Nice to know I shouldn't rush to pack them off just yet.

    Marley - I had that horrible feeling that boobs and tummy had merged then I realize I could not remember the last time I had new bra. All is right in the world. Though it may be thicker I knew I had a waist somewhere :-)

    Adelfa - you all are making me feel so good about not rushing to empty my closet. It's so nice to get approval for procrastinating :-D

    Lucy - I have bought some new things but not a whole new wardrobe. I think I am holding my breath waiting for the weather to turn and wondering where my weight will settle once I'm not hibernating in the house anymore.

  • kkards replied 7 years ago

    welcome back! you may not have prioritized getting dressed, but you've managed to post a fab outfit- wonderful for its richness of color and slightly retro, yet totally current silhouette. 

  • Helena replied 7 years ago

    Hooray!!! You look absolutely glowing ... Motherhood looks good on you!!

  • gryffin replied 7 years ago

    Day Vies - so good to see you back!!  You look amazing!!  My only advise, based on when my son was born, is take it slow.  I got rid of almost everything after my son was born because it didn't feel "right."  Than a year plus later I "woke up" and did a big what was I thinking?  Got rid of all that new stuff I hated and ended up closer to my original style but more evolved.  There is so much fatigue/hormones/changes - that if you can sit tight and give yourself some breathing room life will become clearer and you'll save a boatload of cash!!  Anyway, back to how fabulously stylish and amazing you look!!  Kudos girl and wishing you nights filled with unbroken sleep and days with a minimum of stress!!

  • Karie replied 7 years ago

    She's back! YAY! I have missed you, girlfriend! And you look as fabulous as ever. All the style elements you love are right there in this outfit - structure, ladylike details, and color. 

    Sometimes it is hard to let go of things in our closet, but there will always be new things to take their place. And of course you know that what's important is not the things in the closet, but in playing that game of peek-a-boo, dressy attire optional :)

  • TraceyLiz65 replied 7 years ago

    It is so good to see you! Had to laugh at Baby doesn't care what peek a boo partner is wearing... Body changes are a tough one when one has worked hard to acquire a wardrobe they love. It is tough to let go of pieces especially if its just about fit and the door is open for dreaming it could work in the future. Can you tell I am not good at the letting go... I find it easier once I replace items to make room for the new ones to do the purging.

  • Transcona Shannon replied 7 years ago

    It's so good to see you and as always you look beautiful, polished, elegant and so put together.

  • trekkiegirl replied 7 years ago

    That is a gorgeous skirt and it looks wonderful on you, I can see why you are enamored with it. Congrats on your new baby!

  • Windchime replied 7 years ago

    Oh, yay! It's good to chat with you again! You look as composed and lovely as ever, and I like the new hair style. Purple is a wonderful color on you.

    And you know you can always visit, even without pictures. :)

  • Joy replied 7 years ago

    Day, I've missed your beautiful self and am thrilled to see a post. I think it took my body about a year to settle into it's shape, and that was when fashion was way oversized so most things fit. I was sad to see some clothes have to go when I lost weight, including my carefully cultivated ink capsule.

  • columbine(erin) replied 7 years ago

    Yay, I am so glad to see you fab lady! The skirt is lovely on you. I have to echo the other ladies, it's early to purge yet. I understand sadness of not fitting things but that could change in a few months.

  • merwoman replied 7 years ago

    Wonderful to see you - you look amazing Day Vies! It seemed to take a good year after my first was born ( and maybe two years for the second) for my body to settle down.  I did a total purge of all A line skirts - impossible to get a baby in and out of a car seat and not rip a seam.

  • Eliza replied 7 years ago

    Joining the chorus of welcome backs and appreciation, DV. So good to see you and hear what you have been up to lately. Understandable that a break was in order. Love you in that plaid and your smile reins supreme.

    I understand the closet purging dilemmas. Perhaps a few favorites can live in the holding zone for awhile; I remember phases of shape changing post-baby. It took awhile to see how it would all go.

    Best to you and your family.

  • Momo replied 7 years ago

    You are so beautiful! Love to see you again!

  • Elle replied 7 years ago

    You look wonderful.

    I agree with the advice not to make any hasty purging decisions.  It takes longer than you think to recover from pregnancy (especially when you aren't sleeping much.)  So if you love a piece and it doesn't fit now, box it up and try it next year.

  • Aziraphale replied 7 years ago

    Haha, you are a funny writer. :-)

    Well, if the changes to your body are permanent, it doesn't matter, because you still look great. I love your plaid skirt outfit!

    Adjusting to new motherhood is a process, for sure. As others have suggested, give it time. Avoiding hasty purging decisions seems like a good idea to me.

  • Sara L. replied 7 years ago

    Good to see you! You look great to me! I had to buy all new pants after my first pregnancy because they were all too short (and I didn't get taller). I got back to the same weight but my waist and hips changed.

  • Lisa replied 7 years ago

    Yes I get attached to items in my closet.  The farther away the trip (and less likely that I will visit the place again) the harder it is for me to get rid of something, even if I don't use it currently.  I figure as long as the bulk of my wardrobe is NOT sentimental pieces, then it's ok to own a few. 

  • shedev replied 7 years ago

    Missed you DV. Hope you and the baby are doing great.

  • Jaime replied 7 years ago

    So nice to see you! And you look as fab as always!

  • Echo replied 7 years ago

    It is so good to see you back, and your outfit is fab, as usual. And don't be so quick to let anything go. Many people say 9 months on, 9 months off in terms of weight, though I absolutely agree that sometimes proportions shift regardless of absolute size. But give it time. The priority right now is not the closet, but on your DD, so any purging that must occur can wait. 

  • UmmLila replied 7 years ago

    Good to see you back. I came out on the other side of mom-world thinner than I had been for many years due to running myself too ragged with baby and work so be sure to take care of yourself really well.

  • karymk replied 7 years ago

    It makes me so happy to see you back Day Vies. Give yourself a massive grace period. That's my best wisdom from a mom of three.

  • Asingh replied 7 years ago

    DV, YLF! :)

  • Laurinda replied 7 years ago

    Classic, and classy!

  • Thistle replied 7 years ago

    So good to see and hear from you again!!  You look amazing!

  • tulle replied 7 years ago

    You look terrific.  What a smile!

  • jackiec replied 7 years ago

    Oh my goodness it's GREAT to see you back! You look wonderful as always :)

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